In one of my articles, I attempted to speak about stereotyping among actors and how I ended up having sympathy for champions of stereotyping. I mentioned that I was of the view that this cadre of people decide to give in to weakness. And it is worse if they do so willfully with intention to harm.

I feel the same way about triangulators. Using such clandestine methods to “resolve” what they perceive as a problem is a sign of weakness which cries for help.

The solution? Bluntly put, man or woman up! Build your personality to align with honesty to yourself… especially when no one is watching. Ethical behavior demands that you ask yourself if you would enjoy the reverse role of being triangulated. If not, it should ring repugnance!

Wanting something at all costs as opposed to needing it for the good of the organization, self aggrandizement, lack of grounding and failure to properly harness and manage power or access to it, are symptoms of the disease that triangulators suffer from. Like a cancer, if not detected and treated early, it can escalate and become one’s personality.

The powerful art of introspection where you lay yourself bare and use good values, culture and practice as your key indicators, will give you an honest result that you can work on or get help with.

The woes of triangulators can be far reaching. Some say karma will get you if someone doesn’t. Others will say, what goes around, comes around and so on. This is meant to help us see things with a human eye and heart, and most importantly to integrate decency and sincerity in our lives for better relationships.

Let us discuss ways of aligning our personalities and lives to heights that promote genuine and authentic progress!