As we continue to discuss behavior, particularly in the workplace, I would like to focus on the power of clarity by telling a story.

Jane (for illustration only), known to be outspoken and easily stood out was often received with a mixed bag of responses, ranging from useful to just a loud show off. This bothered Jane in the beginning but with insight and awareness, she was in control of the narrative by always backing up what she said and conceding graciously when she had missed a point or was totally off the mark.

Many a time, Jane found herself in discussions with Peter (for illustration only) who had been desperately seeking an opportunity to show that Jane was actually not all that. After numerous failed attempts it was time for Peter to review his performance in that regard and perhaps restrategise.

The more Peter thought about it, he discovered that he needed to be honest with himself first. “What was the truth? What did Jane have that kept her winning all the time?”, Peter asked himself.
After a few headaches, Peter had his ureka moment! Jane got him every time because she had the power of clarity over his malicious intentions. Peter felt a thud in his chest and all of a sudden started asking himself what end he was trying to achieve. He felt like the biggest coward for choosing malice over merit and promised himself that his next encounter with Jane would be different. He would listen beyond hearing and use his intelligence to seek understanding rather than chaos.

I am sure colleagues know the end of this story… malice achieves zero for progress and well being. Be the reformed Peter!